Have you ever been in one of those relationships where it felt like the person you were with had one foot out the door? They were there—but not fully. They entertained other things that made you uncomfortable. And every time you brought it up, you were accused of being jealous or insecure. Or they would fly off the handle in rage. But the lies and the behavior didn’t stop.
Over time, you learned to keep quiet—not because it didn’t bother you, but because you didn’t want to upset them. Or worse, because you started to believe the lies. You began wondering, “Maybe I am just being too sensitive… maybe I really am the problem.” You didn’t want to be labeled jealous or crazy. So you shrank. You doubted yourself. You were with someone, but you still felt completely alone.
And honestly, there’s nothing lonelier than being with someone who makes you feel more alone than if you were by yourself.
Do you realize that’s how God feels sometimes with us?
He longs to have a relationship with us. He desires it deeply. But many people either don’t believe He exists, or they say they believe, yet only come to Him when they need something. They may pray here and there, but they’re not fully invested. They love the world more. Some love their spouse, their children, their friends—even their habits, addictions, and comforts—more than Him.
They make decisions without Him. They don’t ask for His input, don’t consider how He feels. Yet they still believe they’re good people deserving of Heaven because they haven’t committed any major sins. Maybe they go to church occasionally, give to charity, and treat people decently most of the time. But they also feel justified in their anger, gossip, and grudges.
They aren’t fully devoted. They aren’t really in a relationship with God—but they still want Heaven because it’s better than Hell. They don’t long for Jesus; they just want the perks of Heaven.
But how do you think that makes Him feel?
You know how a one-sided relationship feels. And yet, sometimes we give that exact kind of relationship to the One who left Heaven to suffer and die for us. Do you think He wants someone in His house for eternity who was halfhearted about Him—who had one foot with Him and one foot still chasing the world?
Jesus and the devil can be seen like a good parent and a bad parent. Jesus, the good parent, loves His children unconditionally. He teaches them right from wrong and wants to protect them. But the devil—like a bad parent—is selfish, cruel, and manipulative. He leads people into lies, into hurting others and themselves.
And he does it to hurt God—because the best way to hurt a loving parent is through their children.
Imagine two kids on a playground. One child starts bullying the other. A parent sees it and rushes in to protect their child. That’s Jesus. He stepped into our broken world to save us from the bully—Satan. Jesus didn’t just come to save us from Hell. He came to take our punishment—to stand in the gap, to take the blows on our behalf.
God doesn’t always stop bad things from happening, but He does show us how to overcome. He helps us heal. He comforts. He leads. He restores.
And Jesus is a gentleman. He will never force you to choose Him. He gives you free will. But He wants you to choose Him the way He chooses you—freely, fully, and with your whole heart. He doesn’t want a lukewarm relationship. Would you?
Many of us have walked away from relationships like that—where we were never truly seen or valued. Why would God want to be in one with us?
You can’t be halfway in with God. You either choose Him, or you lose Him.
And the most beautiful truth? He always chooses you. Every single day. He’ll leave the ninety-nine just to go after the one lost soul—and rejoice over that one more than all the rest. That’s how much you matter to Him.
There is nothing Christ won’t do for you—if you just give Him the chance.
You don’t have to have it all figured out. You don’t need to be perfect. You never could be. So come as you are, and He’ll help you. Ask Him to remove the stone from your heart and give you a heart of flesh. Ask Him to change your desires to match His. You might be surprised at what awaits you.
It will be the best decision—and the most life-giving relationship—you’ve ever known.
You’ll experience a peace beyond understanding, just as the Bible says. It’s a love that is safe, steady, and pure. It’s not like any love I’ve ever known from another person. No offense to those who love me—it’s just different. It’s better.
There’s comfort in knowing Someone greater has already gone before you. There’s comfort in knowing you’re never truly alone. There’s healing in knowing what unconditional love feels like.
There’s peace in letting go of your ego—the one that lies to you. And there’s rest in knowing you don’t have to please the world. Even if no one stands with you, Jesus will. He’s never lied to you. He’s never betrayed you. He’s never abandoned you. He’s never manipulated or used you.
He’s in it for you. If you were the only person on earth, He still would’ve come. Still would’ve suffered. Still would’ve died—for you.
And He’s coming back. Soon. To take you home. A place with no pain, no sorrow, no fear, no jealousy, no exhaustion—only joy, only peace, only perfect love.
But you have to choose Him. All the way.
Choose Him like you’ve never chosen anyone else. A real relationship with Jesus will be the most beautiful relationship you’ve ever had. He’ll be your truest friend. And the closer you grow to Him, the better every other relationship in your life—including the one with yourself—will become.
